10 reasons to write your own wedding vows:
1. You Can! Until very recently, women didn’t have the right to speak during
their own traditional weddings (and this is still true in some cultures).
2. Express Yourself – Write vows that reflect your spiritual/religious
beliefs instead of reading the words used for generations.
3. Love Transcends! Interfaith couples, once a rarity, have become common
in the United States. We live, work, and play with people who pray (or
prayed) in a different way than we were taught as children. The spirit of
love and tolerance has transcended many barriers between people of different
religious faiths.
4. Love Knows No Boundaries - International weddings, once the exclusive
privilege of aristocrats and rulers, has mushroomed as travel and
immigration become easier.
5. Inner Wedding – Writing your vows will help you and your partner to focus
on the inner wedding at the core of all the material pleasures of a modern
wedding.
6. Second Marriages – The freedom to admit mistakes, divorce, and marry
again invites us to create more authentic wedding rituals the second or
third time around.
7. Recommitment ceremonies – Many happily married couples choose to
celebrate their love and life together by writing original vows at
recommitment ceremonies.
8. Be Original – If you express your individuality in other areas of your
life, why not express your love uniquely in your vows?
9. Witness Your Love - Writing your own vows allows you to share the magical
moments you’ve already created together. Your family and friends will
discover more about you as individuals and as a loving couple if you put
your love in words.
10. Envision a Future Together – Writing your own vows, separately or
together, can help you outline a path to mutual happiness as future spouses.
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